family "re-entry" challenging

We left Great Lakes with puffed chests, full of pride, emotionally spent and anxious about what the future holds for our son. His mother, particularly, had a tough time as we began our drive home. She cried with pride and also at the realization that this marks the true passage into adulthood for him. He's making his own decisions, carving his own path and snipping the apron strings, once and for all. Tough for many mothers to deal with. She made a comment that she never knew that having a prayer fulfilled would hurt so much. You hope that your child will become an adult and a good person and then when it happens right in front of your eyes, it feels like someone ripped part of your heart away.

We both saw the amazing transformation he made in his 8 weeks of boot camp. We were astonished by the magnitude of information he absorbed, the recollection he had of what seemed like minut details - and the recall of Navy history that he so proudly shared with us.

He recognized that his limitations are far beyond what he experienced thus far, and that really charged him up. He not only has potential, he has extraordinary capacity that he hasn't even realized, yet. AND, he did this...no help from Mom, Dad or Step Dad. This was HIS accomplishment - shared by his shipmates, of course - but he owns it...all the way.

So on Monday morning when the workweek started and we tried to re-enter our routine as if nothing had happened, it was impossible. Still is. Impossible because our world is different now. This man-child whom we wondered at times would ever get a grip on reality and ease into manhood was catapulted into it and was on his way towards carving out an incredible experience in our U.S. Navy. He began a career...not a job...a LIFE in the Navy. Big difference.

Ironically, it was our 8 year old, his youngest brother, who wiped away his mother's tears and said, "Don't worry Mom, Lynch will always be with you here (pointing to his heart)...and I will NEVER leave you." He was right...on one count - and all we could do was smile at the second point - like the others, he WILL leave...physically, one day. But he'll still be 'with us'.

Bravo Zulu, Lynch! Carry on, Sailor. Mom will recover...with each passing phase - as will I.

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  • Hi Cheryl;

    Well, if the tears flowed when he left for boot camp...be prepared for a flood when you watch his PIR. Good luck to you and your sailor. It's a fabulous experience for you all.

  • This is a beautiful, touching story.  The tears sre flowing as bad as the day my son left for bootcamp.  I can't wait till September 16th for MY son's PIR.

  • My son left yesterday. I had all i could do to fight back the tears. I am a single dad who raised my son from diapers to now.I miss him so much but i understand that this was something he had to do. looking at the videos you have on this website makes me feel a whole lot better.
  • Richard,
    The next few weeks will be probably be nerve racking for you and your wife. I recommend that you write to him at least once a week - not so much because he needs it (although he does - nothing lifts their spirits during BC more than mail!), but because YOU need it. Writing to him helps you stay emotionally connected. It's funny. Some of the letters they enjoy most are about silly things - like what you ate for dinner, how the local sports teams are performing or what the dog did today. But your wife and you will discover that the writing helps you to stay engaged and relieves some of the anxiety. BUT - don't get down if Eric doesn't write back often. Their free time is limited. One other note - keep your cell phone handy and charged. You don't want to miss their allotted calls. You'll hear from him about 3-4 weeks in and then again after they complete battle stations. Don't miss it.
    Best wishes to you and your family as you begin this incredible journey together. We're only a week past PIR and the ride has ALREADY been awesome!
  • My son Eric just left for bootcamp on Monday and I am proud of him already. I must admit I miss him already and I am nervous. He was'nt nervous about going and I can't understand that because I sure was when I got drafted a long time ago. He was a a great kid when he left and I'm sure he will be a better man when I get to see him again. He called yesterday with his 15 second allotted time and my wife was very happy just to hear his voice. he will always be her baby I guess.
    Rich
  • We're still numb, Jim...but in a good way. His mother and I are clicking on every link and making as many connections as we can to learn more about what Lynch will experience and what's in store for our Sailor - and our family. Navy Dads has been a great resource, already - and will certainly be key for me...for us, going forward. Congrats to Tim and his son. Our family applauds his accomplishments.
  • Thanks Tim. I had a feeling it wasn't a unique experience...just an extraordinary one! Best to you and your family too.
  • Dennis,
    You pretty much summed up the feelings that I and, as far as I know, every other parent of a U.S. Sailor have felt at that very momment. Bravo Zulu to you , your wife, your son Lynch and the rest of your family. Congratulations to your Family.
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