I have a beautiful son and a loving husband who help keep me going day to day. I am truly blessed to have something innocent back into my life and so very afraid at the same time.
Growing up parents want to protect their children, help kind of conceal the real terror and horror that is out there in the world. Help give them guidance along the way in any type of situation they may face. Some parents may be the opposite expose them to the cold hard truth and help make them strong from a young age.
Here is where it is gray , how do we know what we are doing is going to shape your child into who we want them to be?
Let them watch the news learn about catastrophic events like weather, people losing their homes , cars , and most importantly how quick we can lose a loved one.
Let them play war games to desensitize them from learning to complete a mission and task an order despite who gets hurt along the way.
Add women into the game so its even more natural to encourage violence against women soldiers its just another causality to war and our mission and our goal.
Hey we did vote to be equal right? To be treated the same as a fellow man . This is all great and all but what about the weak women the small ones who can not protect themselves without immediately going for their weapon.
My son is six and I worry that if I raise him to protect a woman it can get him into trouble because lets face it not all women are honest everyday citizens . However not all men are either.
How can I train him to recognize the dog s*** sandwich before he takes a bite? Also to be aware of a females demeanor when something is not right and she may need someone in her corner to help protect her from todays cold society, from the fake congress and sensate who pretend they give a crap about victims ???
Truth is we have created to much of a gray line.
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You have to just do the best that you can with what you have. That's how I've raised my son. Sure I look back and think, well, maybe I should have did this or that. But we can only play the game of life with the cards that we are dealt. :)
Just remember that "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree",, and I'm a good apple! :)
Echoing Tom and Paul, Wendy. Our Sailor is # 2 of four sons...... We tried to lay the foundation upon which the person (in this case, man) will be built. Through God, family, dedication, commitment, education, common-sense, and good will, the storms were weathered and tribulations managed. Our eldest is 31 - youngest 20. So far so good. Take advantage of those teachable moments; be positive; be strong; be supportive; and be a parent. Your son will thrive and become the man with common-sense who will know in his heart the correct path (s) to choose................
I have always believed that you lead by example. Are there pitfalls along the way?....of course....but use those moments to teach. Children learn mostly from their parents and immediate family. They watch how a Husband treats their Mom....and vice-versa. Show them the way...life experience will teach them the rest. All you can do is lay the foundation.....
You do the best job you can and you try to instill a set of values in your kids....all you can do is to be a role model....if you treat them with an attitude that some people are crap then guess what....they will grow up with that as their role model....is that something you want?